just my thoughts: sisters

three glasses, three sisters

If you aren't blessed to have at least one sister in your life, you don't know what you are missing. I have two, so it is double the fun.

I can't remember not having Vicky there. We were born fourteen months apart. So I can't remember a time in my life that Vix wasn't there. I remember Dooj's arrival on the scene though, because I was 5 years old when she was born. She was like having a live babydoll, and was a perfect lookalike for the Gerber baby. We had a lot of fun with her when she was a baby. She was the perfect baby.

The sisters and I have been close our whole lives. Nothing keeps us apart, and our strength is each other. We have been through the normal gamut of life experiences, but what makes us strong is that we rely on each other. There have been untold times in our lives when we called each other because of some stressful thing we were dealing with, or not dealing with well. I can remember calling Vix one time years ago and telling her I just wanted to hear the voice of someone who loved me because I was having a terrible day and didn't think I would make it through. One of those days you remember because it was so nasty and stressful it was almost like you were living someone else's life.

vix and dooj walk and talk

And Vicky said something. I don't remember what now. The words weren't important. What I remember is the soothing calmness I felt after I talked to her. I was less stressed, strengthened, and better able to deal with what was going on. That is what we do for each other. When one is in need, the others step up to the plate and share strength. We give support and remind each other that we are not alone. We are SISTERS.

Many times my sisters or I have called each other. And many times I have received those calls shortly after I was thinking about them. We have called for advice, to gripe, to gossip, to tell each other how much we loved and missed each other. Computers and social programs have enabled us to keep closer contact with each other, as have cell phones which make phone calling so affordable we can do it as often as we want or need to.

flying high

it begins with a flash

When our dad died ten years ago, one of the biggest wake up calls for the three of us was that time is fleeting and you can't get back what is past. It is gone forever. It was a big regret of Dad's that he didn't spend more time with us, but one he couldn't undo. But we decided after Dad's death that no matter what came up in our lives, we would find time for each other every year, and more often if possible. We have taken several road trips together, and the time spent alone as sisters has just deepened the love I have for them, and I am sure they would respond with the same answer. It is our time to reconnect and relive old memories while making some new ones, and there have been some very special moments together.

the ham sisters

Most of all my sisters make me laugh. Oh, we have our share of fights and disagreements. But we never hold grudges. The three of us were just not made that way. We know we don't agree about everything, and sometimes we hotly disagree about things. But in the end we are still sisters, and that is more important to us than any disagreement we have. We accept the differences. We are all uniquely different and we appreciate that in each other. We find humor in almost everything. That is one of our strengths. That even when we are in the midst of a disagreement, one of us can make a remark or crack a joke and we all laugh. Every time.

will you turn that camera OFF?

That is part of our strength you see. We complement each other. We are stronger as a whole than as individual parts of the sum. We see the humor in everything, and we have a wicked sense of it, often almost to the point of absurdity. But we GET each other, and understand what the joke is about even if those around us are looking dumbfounded at us and scratching their heads. Right now as I sit writing this about my wonderful sisters, they are interrupting me making jokes. And I stop. And we laugh. Because that is what we do.

What can I say about my sisters? That they are part of me. That I understand them. As they do me. That I admire and love them and would do anything they asked of me. That they are strong, courageous, wise women and I am proud to be their sister. That had I had a chance to pick out the sisters I wanted when I was a girl, I could not have chosen two women any more perfect to be my sisters. And I will always be grateful to them for all they are.

Even when Dooj is wearing my panties on her head to get a laugh, and Vix is snorking tea through her nose because I said something stupid. That is what makes them perfect.